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Tuesday, September 13, 2016

A Quick Guide and Reference To Trans Help (All Inclusive) [This post is a work in progress. I will be adding help to the non-binary peeps shortly.]

(Trigger warning. I will be "getting into it" here so if you are having an "off" day, please feel free to come back at a better time.)
This post will feature real help now. I will be posting products here. Both products I believe in and those tried and true methods honed to OUR needs.

ECProsthetics offer (in my opinion the lowest price, highest quality products and they offer it for the full spectrum in the Trans community.
Their prosthetics include MTF (I get so tired of our girls being left out and so I REALLY appreciate ECProsthetics for this) and though they are a growing company that is not yet perfect, their products DO work for the heavier person. They are also hyper-realistic in feel and look. The one issue I had was that their medical grade material did seemed a bit stiff, but as you wear it, the material starts to warm to your body temperature and as it does, it softens dramatically. After about 15 minutes, I stopped feeling like I was packing (vitally important for me as far as dysphoria goes).

The learning curve for the STP part was easier than any I have tried so far. You do need to hold back your flow, but only very slightly. ALL STPs require some practice. I have not yet tried the EZP, but that is coming soon. I don't hold out high hopes for EZP for big guys because it's too short for us and if you squeeze the sides, you will have accidents. Or so I am told. My upper legs are too thick for this.
ECProsthetics runs small by at least an inch. My next product with them will be the 6 inch. Because I am large, I need my parts to stick out farther than my belly (I know you know what I am talking about) when I am trying to urinate and for you girls/non-binary peeps who want prosthetic chests or workable STPs (sit to pee devices), I am being told that their products are just as good for bigger girls. They have the best customer service I have ever seen. If you need an adjustment on the products, all you have to do is write to them and they will try their best to work with you. I had a terrible time with shipping (not because of them, but because of the post office) and they were wonderful through it.
Please let me know what you think of the female stp products.

Prices are the best on the market as far as realistic STPs go and run as low as $50ish. Just check out these prices:

I will be posting my own STP vlog and blog review (once I have used the product... their 4.5 STP, long enough) very soon. If any one else wants to review any product that has worked for them and post it here, they are more than welcome to.

Here are some pics, products and videos of things you can purchase now that both work well for BiggerTz and that are realistic as well as comfortable to wear. I HIGHLY suggest going higher in size for bigger FTM/Non-binary peeps who pack. My suggestion if you are overweight, is between a 5 and 6 inch shaft. If they measure from the base like EZProsthetics does, give it an extra inch and go with the 6 inch. That is larger than average, however unless their sizes run large already, small really just doesn't work for us. For one, if you can't see what you are doing, you will be more likely to have embarrassing accidents you don't want to clean. Secondly, you want to be able to reach it and if your weight causes you to have trouble doing this, it is going to be that much harder for you to get it positioned right so you don't have accidents. Leaning is your best friend. One hand on the wall, lean like you're the drunkest bastard on the planet. Spread 'em like a cowboy on a saddle. If you squeeze your STP, you and he will not be friends for long. ALL STPs require practice. Cis guys had dads to teach them, but even they had to learn. It's even harder for us. So be patient with your own learning curve and give any STP product at least three months or more to master. You'll get it and if not you might have to try a different product. If you have been through many products, than you might consider trying the non-phalic lines of STP devices like the pStyle, the Pibella, or the Mr. Fenis. If your anatomy is more up in the front than underneath, the Pibella will most likely be the best choice for you. If your anatomy is more below or underneath, than I would go for the pStyle or the Mr. Fenis. For those who struggle the most, the pStyle is the absolute easiest to use with the fastest learning curve. The Mr. Fenis is somewhat in the middle, but the benefit to this one is that it folds up neatly and really small, while the other two are made of hard plastic. Some of those have extendable lengths and easier shapes for our anatomy. I will post those products in the BiggerTz Non-binary section below. I don't know about you, but if I FEEL like I am wearing a prosthetic, it isn't really all that helpful. So here is my starter list:
Example of some of their products:

Rodeo, actually carries up to 3X (55inch waist). That is much better than most places.!/RodeoH-Black-ButtonFly-Boxer/p/15497564/category=15346154
An example of their products:

They also put out one, which I would consider the absolute best of the best when it comes to STPs for MTFs. They do not have anything for the girls YET. I am currently writing to them about this issue. I am hoping to change this. I will keep you posted on what I hear back from them.

For BiggerTz girls:
You simply won't find better advice from anyone than our beautiful drag performers. They have the best tips and tricks and you can find a LOT of them on youtube. If you happen to be lucky enough to already be well endowed, they have enhancement tips as well. When it comes to cis girls, breast size is not determined by weight any more than penis size is for the guys. There are 300lbs girls who wear an A cup. Society teaches us that this is not ideal, however that is a load of media garbage in my opinion and there are plenty of cultures that celebrate the curvy or big woman. There are many people who in fact prefer the softness of the big girl. I speak from personal experience. I always tell girls that women don't get to choose their breast size. Most cis girls HAVE dysphoria when it comes to their breast size because of the pressure society has placed on them. This is also true for cis-men and their penis size. This is ONE area that is only half true for the trans populous. IF you do not want to wear a prosthetic and are happy with what your maker gave you, that is wonderful. I will tell you one tip. Pull from the sides (under the armpit). You can increase your bust size this way, even if minimally. Especially, if you wear an underwire. Tape can help, though I advise extreme caution when it comes to tape. Be safe with it. Look up HOW to be safe with it before doing it. They have gel filled bras that can increase bust size and also to help get the desired shape. This can help if the feeling of silicone or cyberskin is triggering for you. Please note that hormone treatment will increase breast size for most people. Breast size does not happen all at once, just like the trans guy's beard. The growth happens in spurts and over time. Here is another blog on this topic. I find the comment section invaluable. The author has chosen anonymity, or I would give credit. Instead, I will redirect you to her blog:
Also, please check out this page by Lucille Sorella (Copyright © 2016 Preen Publishing LLC
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Typical body shapers tend to ride up when you are big, so those don't work well, but you can purchase cheap compression shirts that do a similar job for a portion of the price. Just cut the top of the chest area out, like so:
Don't cut the bottom. Get a size that fits and doesn't cause pain, but is snug. This helps to accentuate without taping and causing serious harm to yourself. Cut the stomach part below the waist. A friend of mine, threads a colorful shoelace or string through the bottom hem to tie under the belly so that it doesn't ride up. The bra goes on over this. Websites that sell underwear with filled in buttocks and hips, do not usually come very large, so you can visit these YouTubers and they will help you out quite a bit. Now this girl is tiny. I know, but the good thing about being bigger for this one is that one, your belly can help to hide stringlines. Two, there is a layer of natural fat between the pelvis bone and the skin and the larger you are, the more this layer increases. The thicker the layer is, the easier and less painful it is going to be to tuck and fold things and to get them where you want them. I highly suggest writing down the sizes and materials that you use that you find works best for you and than sticking to that one method. Different materials will do different things. So experiment with sock types, and nylon types to get the best possible design for yourself.:
This gaff idea (video created by YouTube personality, Brooklyn Beauty) works for any size person because they sell pantyhose for all sizes:
For a hips and ass, money saving idea, let me redirect you to Sharon ShareAlike's video. Please don't forget to like and subscribe to these girls if they have helped you. They are working hard and taking time to do this and this idea DOES work for any size person.
One thing she doesn't use on the foam is sandpaper. I can tell you from my own crafting that sand paper, to get a really smooth and tapered finish, works fantastic on foam. You want to go with a medium grade on the sandpaper. Not a heavy or a fine. Heavy will crumble the foam and fine will not do anything. Please, please, please DO NOT inject mineral oil. You can KILL yourself doing that. It is SO unsafe. Also, with layering. Less is more. You will overheat. If you are big, your organs already have a lot of pressure on them and you don't want to add more. You girls are a little luckier than the guys as far as youtube videos go. I would start there and try to stick to methods that are simple and use the least layering as possible. I am waiting on permission to share a few videos.
I would really like to hear back from any girls who have tried the Gina Clip and if you don't know what that is, check it out here ( Warning, there is actual nudity for educational reasons on this one. The video was made as a guide to prevent injuries while using the clip. I want to know comfort on a 1-10 scale, how it is for you throughout the day and any negative or positive things you know about this item. I cannot review this product for you, so it would be great if someone who has would give us a shout. The same goes for any of the STP products you have tried. Please let other girls know if they worked well for you. I will be keeping an eye out for videos on these.

For BIggerTz guys:
I want to talk about binding for big guys/non-binary peeps. Media shows all these nice flat pecks for trans dudes after binding and all the guys are fit, but that isn't real helpful for us. Binders ride up/roll up on big guys. Unless you get the half length ones, which are better but don't usually come in our size. You CAN get them made to fit, which is nice, but extremely pricey. I want to point out that the human body is extremely diverse. Not all cis guys are well endowed (some can even suffer dysphoria themselves from this due to the pressures society has placed on this), some cis men are even top heavy when overweight. When a cis guy puts on weight, it is typical for his chest to gain fat cells. If you look at these images you will see this is true and you can see how different size cis guys vary in peck size:

As you can see from these different bodies, men have many different shapes and they are not all that perfect peck picture that our communities have shown us online (that was a lot of assonance). The best binder I have ever found for guys our size is compression tank tops, made for men, cut just below the "peck" line. I don't buy them small or tight, because I want to protect my heart, which is already at risk and doesn't need that extra pressure squeezing it. I buy to fit and here's why. It only has to be tight enough that I can pull my "moobs" away from each other, towards my armpits and have them stay. If I were to wear a bra, I would be in a 42DD and even though I am this big, this method still works for me REALLY well. I look like any dude who is overweight, which is exactly what I am. I am not going to get that exact look I want because the look I want is fit and I am not fit. I am lucky enough to have a wife who loves my size. Believe it or not, lots of people like and prefer big. The aim isn't to change you into someone else. The aim is to take the you, that you are now and to make that you become the gender you know you are. Make sense? We can also get some style tip to help out with that. This guy here has some decent verbal tips for big guys, so check out his channel. These tips are not just tips for 2016, or tips that work for elders. I chose these tips, because they work for any age, any style:
Here's a good one for business men:
Those who carry their weight mostly in their belly:
I have looked at this guy's stuff a lot and thought the style is a bit stiff for my tastes, at least when I go out, I know I look good and that is a great feeling. It was a HUGE confidence booster when I realized people responded to me differently when I started taking some of these tips into my wardrobe.
Okay, now STPs, packers and all things down below. First thing I want to mention is Rodeo's new 2nd Gen. STP. It is, in my opinion, the best on the market. IF you are gonna save hundreds of dollars for an STP, that is the one I would buy. I am just being honest. There are lots of good products out there, but that is my honest opinion. I am not endorsed by anyone. I haven't been asked to give a review. That is my honest opinion. It costs around $300-$400 range, which isn't bad considering how high the prices are elsewhere. It isn't great either. I am poor. Most of the people in our community are suffering in poverty due to prejudice. It drops our economic level, so I feel it is a bit of a cheap blow to charge that much in the first place for any of it, but that's what they have decided to do and if I can get my starter money for my business up, I aim to change that. Until I do, there it you have it.
I feel the next best is ECProsthetics. Their prices are fantastic. Really. I also appreciate that they include that women's needs. I have not tired their packers yet. If they are as firm as their STPs I would pass. You can call and ask them about the feel. If you find out, feel free to give us a shout, or I may at a later date.
Next is real magic, but it is hit or miss with them. Either you love their stuff or you regret getting them deeply because they don't work for your anatomy and that is a LOT of money to spend on a product that MIGHT work... To be fair, however I CAN vouch for their packer. They put out literally one of the best quality packers on the market. If you want to go for comfort, go for the soft. If you want a more real feeling you can go "firm" for another ten bucks. The soft is VERY soft. That is a personal choice.
Anyway, I would avoid the EZP hype. The creator even says that if you have big upper legs and you can't spread them and make a two inch gap between your legs, that it is not the product for you. That doesn't even mention the shaft size vs belly issue.
I have heard that FreeTom has a hard learning curve, makes squelching noises during sex and after peeing etc. I cannot vouch for that personally, but please feel free to leave your opinion and help a fella out.
Rodeo does offer a packer. A few of them in fact. I cannot vouch for that one, but looking at them and taking to others who have used them, the best advice I can give is that they are fantastic quality, look and feel. All of them. The STP flaccid leaves more of a natural contour in the pants even than their packers. It lays down more. They have an STP that stays in the "hard" position, but does not feel hard, though I would imagine it would be difficult to pack with. I am still waiting for a buddy of mine to get his and get back to me on it. I will keep you posted. Several reviews have claimed that it passed the grab test.
If you are budget tight like I am, the best cheap packer reviews and my own personal fav.s are the Packer, the Pierre and the Archer, and the Pack It (though with the PackIt, be extra careful with the balls or you will tare it). The Pack It is by far the cheapest and so you can expect a lower quality, but it does the job the best for the price range. If you don't yet follow uppercaseCHASE1 on YouTube, I highly recommend that you do. That man has helped me more than any other online. Literally twice as much. In fact, he is the reason I am passionate about doing this now. He has started a new channel with his buddy Aaron, which I also highly recommend. Both channels talk a lot about all things FTM. I don't want to cover those topics too much because you can get them elsewhere. The products I have mentioned specifically work with us BiggerTz. Which leads me to another issue...
Chafing. OMG. Friggin chafing. If your legs touch when you walk, they chafe. They can get so sore that you don't want to walk. Not good. This is especially true in the heat. What you are going to want to do, and this may not be what you want to hear, but it is the truth is to switch to boxerbriefs. They may not be your thing, but this will cut down or even cure any chafing issues you might have. Powders. Talcum powders and other powders have actually been proven to cause ovarian cancers and other cancers. Johnson and Johnson is being sued for this right now. So please avoid powders and switch to corn starch, if you haven't already. You don't want to put anything chemical in that general area because it can upset the PH there and cause major problems. You can use this on your packers as well and it will even make them feel more like skin and stay drier in the hot weather.
These are the cheapest and best binders I can find on the market if you want to go with an actual binder. They carry sizes up to 5X and offer skin/flesh tones. With this company, you DO NOT want to buy a size smaller than you are. Trust me on this one. If you buy a size smaller, you will not be able to put it on. Go with your actual size. They make these specifically for FTMs. They take your specific compression needs into account with both their material and sizing, so measure inches around and see their size charts for more detail.

For BiggerTz Non-binaries:
Binding: This site offers flesh colored binders for fair prices (between $30-$40 on average). Not bad considering most places charge $50. There was a woman making them for very cheap, but she recently shot her prices up from $10-$20 all the way up to $50 and the quality is mediocre at best, so I have not posted that site. I will keep an eye out in case she sets reasonable prices again.